Single gnome male, age 24, looking for female enchanter to put me under her spell...

/wink

But on a serious note I am currently wondering if I should use a dating service when I get home or if I should just continue to try to find a girlfriend from college. What are some of your opinions on the matter? Have any of you had any success using personals?

Any input would be greatly appreciated.

My coworker got married through eharmony and he seems pretty happy.

I dated in HS, but not in college, where you could potentially find a wonderful person to spend the rest of your life with in college, I was more into getting my career started an getting wild an crazy. Its college you only do it once so I did it big, afterwards, it seems like alot of your friends that either got hitched with a college sweetheart will try to set you up with their friends. I did date alot after, but I started traveling for work so much that I stopped dating, an became focused on work.

I date now, an dont find it to hard to find someone without using any online dating services. All depends on your personality I guess, I am very outgoing and can walk up to anyone an start a convo, an in turn people sense that I am like that an feel like they can walk up to me.

Just a tip about online dating. Not sure about eharmony, but I have a close childhood friend that tried this, an it didnt work out, apparently she was only using him to get papers to be able to stay in this country, an he found her cheating on him. It was a messy situation.

FYI mail order brides are also an option.

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Also to add to this, here is something that I found funny, its a dating website for geeks. I fisrt saw this on the wow-heroes.com page on the sidebar an lmao. Its called qeek 2 geek, the site address is www.Gk2Gk.com havent looked thru it yet, but I will sometime tomorrow just to see the winners on their.

I got a Costume/UFC party to prepare for, I have like 30 some people coming over, and the bar is stocked. I will put up some picks tomorrow.

Ah Trespan that is a tough call. I am the opposite of Santos, while he is an extrovert I am truly in RL an introvert, well I was when I was single.

A dating site might work, it has for my friends in some cases and not in others. the way I found my beautiful wife of 9.4 years, was through friends, back in the ricer days. I love tinker and boosting anything and during this pahse it was cars, specifically Honda, Acura, or any other Japanese car we could get our hands on.

Lisa can vouch for me while the group I ran with were goth, grunge, and gears heads, I kept my identity as a clean cut kid, but don't get me wrong I could wrench, but my favorite thing was reprogramming those dang computers, bending the car to my will and pushing those hunks of metal to the edge, and just a little beyond....


*sigh* was an interesting time in my life, but I digress from the agenda. I would suggest a full assault get out there and meet people who like to do the same things as you, WoW, Football, Track, Chess, Computers, or whatever. In parallel join a couple of sites and see what you find.

I always think to myself just enjoy the life you are given man and I say thank you for protecting my country and my family.

HUZZAH!

Start spreading the word that you have a girlfriend already, and stop looking. Not seriously there, but women seem to be more attracted to attached guys, and the best ones come around when you are not out trying to find one anyway.


Or, just do social gatherings for things you like, and you could meet Ms. Right. And know that you have at least that in common.

I got lucky and met the perfect woman at work many years ago. We got to know each other as friends for about three years before the courtship began. Aah good times. I acted responsible and she acted like she enjoyed camping and frequent other *cough* things.


You are a smart and creative young man, some woman would be real lucky to have you.


*No, I am not hitting on ya Josh lmao. Gl bro and have patience

I'm kind of in that situation now, but I gave up on finding someone at my college. It's a small liberal arts school, and the dating pool is just too abysmally shallow. Not that there's not great people here, but the number of geeks is just... tiny.

Whether or not that'll hold true in grad school is a different story entirely. Although I'm not decided on that either. We'll see.

So I guess I'm playing a waiting game. But I'm glad for it, because I'm not sure I'm in a stable enough position emotionally to really get into a good relationship.

Good luck, bro.

Wow, thanks for the quick responses. I was sort of worried about getting flamed when I posted, but it's been so long I must have forgotten that Perseid is full of mature, intelligent and very helpful people.

I think I'm gonna join a few clubs that share my interests, perhaps then I could find someone (or meet people who know people).

If within a few months at college I'm having little progress I'll check out the personals.

Thanks a bunch!

Josh

*giggle*

Believe it or not, that includes you Johnny.

Even if you are eccentric about beer and boobies...

1. Find a girl you dig.
2. Find her best friend.
3. Find the guy #2 has a crush on and make him your roommate.

Relationship by association. The friendship sort of builds itself and, imo, there's no sense pursuing a relationship with someone if you aren't friends first.

Aero's fine wisdom, but I agree. I married my best friend, so it is a good start. As my wife has a nice plaque on my office wall.

"Marriage, finding that one special person you can annoy over and over."

Wisdom indeed, just make sure not to get toooooooo friendly, you will be getting calls from her eventually, but not the way you would want.

Friends first is good, just steer clear of the extreme friend zone, you know the one where she says your like a brother to her and she can talk too you about anything, even her CURRENT relationship.


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BTW last night was a blast, just to add to the theme of this thread, me an my friends will throw random parties at each others house, and their are always lots of single people mixed in with couples. We all love hanging out together, last night we stay up outside around a bonfire talking, drinking, an laughing long into the night. I met some new people that a friends brought along an it was in a casual environment, so there is no pressure to talk to anyone. Thats a really good way to get to know people.

Though fyi prob not a good choice to scare them half to death before meeting them, I had a fan blow up 12'x16' haunted house that we attach to the front door complete with hanging bats, spiders an a motion sensor that plays creepy sounds. We set it up so people had to walk thru it to get into the yard. Well I was standing in the hidden door scaring all the people that came through. FUN FUN, watching grown people scream an run while the kids laughed was awesome.

That's hilarious Santos. Halloween is a blast and I hope everyone has fun!

I'm sure you'll find someone Josh. I remember the first time I talked to you when you thanked me for the cookies. I remembered thinking wow Deltonn and his wife did a really good job. Women tend to marry the nice guys I think.

Also, take romance advice from Shaklar. He's making all us ladies jealous on Facebook for how he treats Lisa. We'd all like to send our husbands to the "Shaklar School of Gift Giving".

Hehe, thanks Jan.

I wish girls went for the nice guys.

It has been my experience that they go for the jerks who like to slap their hoes, and then they themselves secretly wish they could have better but are stuck in their bad relationship...

I think the secret for me would be to become more active, searching wise, and partake in the various school actives available here at college. If that doesn't succeed I'll give the personals a go.

I agree with you Trespan I found myself on the short end of the stick many a time as the girl I liked, loved, lusted, or was infatuated with went for the bad boy. You will find the one, without compromising your morals. There is always the pat of rolling with the bad boys, and you will gain this image, I did this for a while running with some very dark, druggies, in the end I found it was just not me and the women it was attracting were not my thing either.

Time and perseverance.


Jan: You make me smile with compliments like that. I have learned one thing with 9.4 years of marriage, random acts of kindness to my wife or people in general no matter how depressed, angry, or upset I am will put a smile on someones face. So in my household there is no flowers or gifts for arguments, things are given not forgiveness but for remebrance.

Thanks for the tip Shalk. My wife has been having a rough time at work lately so I am off to get her some flowers.


And some great advice you said there -- take your time and the perfect woman for you will show up. Not like a Disney movie though.

All rock solid advice.

Glad he asked some folks he might listen to seein as how he won't listen to his dad about girls. Don't know why because His mom is married to a super guy and they been married now 27 years.

Hey Joshua that girl who's Katies BFFL dropped her dumb boy friend and may be available for dating. (I don't know why I like her so much, could be her dad has two farms with a ton of hunting area for big deer)

Glad you called and talked to your mom yesterday.

Love Dad

I've been using eharmony for about a year now. I've had plenty of dates through the site, but nothing that's really lasted. Still, it's something I'm going to continue doing. Even thought I haven't been able to find "the one", I have made a lot of new friends and had some fun dates.

I thought musicians get all the women... aren't there drum corps roadies?!?!?